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Living Foster Care

May 30, 2017 by FAAZWebII Leave a Comment

FAAZ Young Adult Board Member, Frank Smith, challenged Joe Jacober to “live foster care” through the FAAZ Day in the Life challenge. Joe’s challenge was to be patted down for an entire week every time he entered his home. This challenge reflected one of Frank’s own experiences while in foster care.

Frankly, it was humiliating.  Walking into my own house and being patted down seemed sad.  For what reason was I being patted down?  What are you looking for?  What do you think I am hiding?  Don’t you trust me?  These were the thoughts going through my head each time I came home,” Joe shared.

When asked how this challenge enhanced Joe’s understanding of the experiences some youth in foster care could face, he responded, “Having been a foster parent for more than 15 years, I thought I had a grasp of the issues faced by youth in foster care, but this challenged surprised me.  It is amazing to think that any child or young person would have to experience something like this. If there is such a lack of trust between me (or the youth in foster care), how would we ever have a growing and nurturing relationship if every time you greeted me you were saying … ” I don’t trust you”.  Not exactly a welcoming feeling.”

The Day in the Life blog series, is an effort spearheaded by the FAAZ Young Adult Leadership Board, to raise community awareness of the need for normalcy within foster care, supported under the Federal Strengthening Families Act (SFA). Moreover, with SFA, foster families have the support and trust they need to create “normal” living environments and experiences for youth in their care. This helps develop open and compassionate relationships between caregivers and youth to create trusting and stable relationships.

“I am often approached with questions about being a foster parent, but rarely about what it is like to be in foster care.  I learned that I need to be much more open and mindful of the experiences youth in foster care, especially older youth, may be going through, if I truly expect to be a good advocate for them,” Jacober.

A special thank you to Joe Jacober and Frank Smith for sharing their “Day in the Life” experiences!

Filed Under: Advocacy, Day in the Life, News

Meghan’s Day In The Life Challenge

March 23, 2017 by FAAZWebII Leave a Comment


Mission accepted! This month’s Day in the Life challenge is particularly special, as one of our very own advocates, Meghan Arrigo, was nominated to take part in raising greater awareness to the everyday experiences of Arizona youth in foster care. Young Adult Board Member, Desaray Klimenko, challenged Meghan to do all her grocery shopping for the week using the bus as her primary mode of transportation. This is a challenge often experienced by many youth in foster care.

Eating healthy is an important part of my family’s lifestyle. Once a week, we pull out our cookbooks and methodically plan our menu and grocery list for the week. We also hit at least two to three stores a trip so we can get the best sale prices. I knew grocery shopping for the week, on the bus, was not going to be easy, so I enlisted the support of my husband. We coordinated our schedules and choose a Sunday afternoon to ensure we had enough time. We planned our meals accordingly, making sure to only buy exactly what we needed. After researching where to purchase bus tickets and the bus routes, we decided to visit only one grocery store, even if this meant missing out on sale items.

As we set out to walk through our neighborhood to the nearest bus stop, it started to rain. Once we boarded and made it to the store, we worked together as quickly as possible hoping to catch the next hourly bus. Once we finished shopping, we headed out on foot towards the nearest bus stop. Just as we approached the intersection to cross the street, we saw the bus parked loading passengers.  We attempted to run, grocery bags in hand, but we couldn’t cross in time and the bus left without us. While waiting the 30 minutes until the next bus arrived, it started to rain, so we sought shelter under a car wash awning. It took us 2.5 hours to complete our shopping trip; double what it typically takes us in our car and going to multiple stores. I ended up riding my bike to another store midweek to purchase some additional items.

My Day In The Life Challenge underscored how essential a driver’s license and vehicle are in a state like Arizona, and the privileges I have with both. Not just because having a car makes grocery shopping easier, it makes everything easier. It allows me flexibility in employment, assurance I can attend doctors’ appointments and important meetings, connections with friends and family, additional safety in my commute, and a whole host of other advantages and conveniences. Having to ride a bike or rely on the bus as my only form of transportation means something entirely different when it is a choice vs. out of necessity. For young people in foster care, it is critical they have this choice. Prior to leaving care, all young adults 16 and older should be provided driver’s training courses and the opportunity to secure a driving permit or license. It is a critical step in the ability to be self-sufficient. We can’t hold young people to expectations of independence if we don’t provide them the tools and support to do so.”

Now it’s your turn to take the challenge and raise awareness of what “living foster care” is like. Do you accept this mission?

Filed Under: Advocacy, Day in the Life Tagged With: Advocacy, Children's Action Alliance, Foster Care, foster youth, Fostering Advocates Arizona

$20 Challenge

January 17, 2017 by FAAZWebII Leave a Comment

This month, Young Adult Leadership Board member, Maria, nominated FAAZ Advisory Board member, Lori Ollom-Tighe, to take part in the FAAZ Day in the Life Challenge. Each challenge is related to something FAAZ Young Adult Leadership Board members have personally experienced while in foster care and can provide input on what needs improvement. For one week, Lori was allotted $20 to spend on “extra” items such as toiletries, coffee, gas, food and groceries.

Here is what Lori experienced:

“The day before I began my challenge I did some serious “adulting”: I filled my gas tank, paid my bills, bought groceries and postponed a lunch meeting with a friend. I packed snacks, skipped lunches and I declined invitations out. It was possible I would need the $20 for gas money by the end of the week so I was trying to not spend.

In the middle of the week my daughter needed to go to the doctor. Although we have health insurance, the appointment and prescription amounted to $90. I only had $55 in my health savings account, so I had to use my $20 plus $15 more. This was the most striking moment of the challenge; I thought of how remarkably difficult it would have been for a young parent in the foster care system with limited resources.

I was moved with gratitude and reminded of what it was like to be a young person; the kind of expenses I had and my priorities at the time. I was blessed to be raised in a two parent household that supported my desire to manage a part-time job at 16. Because my essential needs were covered, I was able to spend money earned on accessories, clothes, food and entertainment. My paychecks supported my social life.”

When asked what she will do with what she has learned, Lori said she plans to begin asking family, friends and colleagues to take the challenge and become a voice for youth in foster care.

“I would love to see people unfamiliar with how foster care works participate in this challenge and share their experience; I think it could raise community awareness in a powerful way.”

Take our Day in the Life Challenge and you too can advocate for more normalcy in foster care.

 

Filed Under: Advocacy, Aging Out, Day in the Life, Moneywise, Uncategorized

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